Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Why We Aren't Buying Much for Our One Year Old

I love being a mommy. It's really the most fulfilling job that I have had the pleasure to have. If I could, I would give her everything in the world.

But, that's not reality. There's not endless amounts of money in my bank accounts--actually rather more close to the opposite end. So we have to be very particular about how we spend our money.

That's why we decided we aren't buying our one year old very much for Christmas. Sure, we are getting her a few things, and Santa will be visiting our house. But, it's not going to be what most people do for their kids.

Why We Decided not to Spend a lot on Our One Year Old:

1. She isn't old enough to understand that she isn't getting a lot of gifts.
If it's anything like her birthday, she will rip open a few gifts and be done. She may or may not latch on to a toy, and that's about it. She doesn't really understand what we are doing yet, so it wouldn't be something that hurt her feelings.

2. We would rather be financially responsible than go overboard just for the pictures.
I totally get that a lot of people can go all out for Christmas and can more than afford it. That's great! And that's your decision on how to spend your money. We, however, would have to really pinch or cut out other things, like organic food, that aren't necessarily negotiable to me.

3. I want to set a precedent that will help her focus on what this time of year is really about.
Christmas in our household is focused on the birth of Christ. I want to start out early  , even when she doesn't understand yet, making Jesus the priority of this season instead of Santa and presents. I want her to know that she got the ultimate gift during this time of year. Part of that responsibility means that I won't ever ve giving here absolutely everything she wants, as much as I'd like to. I want her to know that we are celebrating His birthday, and that's what's truly important. 

What do you think about giving kids everything they ask for? Do you focus on other things during the holiday season?


  1. I 100% agree!!!! Our kids get three gifts (in honor of the 3 Jesus received). That's it. (You know extended family members sometimes feel the need to spoil. I cannot stop that or I get looks like I'm an alien!) We instill giving to others (we serve at soup kitchens and shelters and delivering meals to less fortunate families). I wish more people would put the AmEx up and treat the holiday in the way its meant to be treated!!!

    1. That's a great idea! And there's a great reason behind it. So far, I haven't minded grandparents spoiling, mostly because the spoiling still includes things she really needs (clothes, sippy cups, bedding, etc.) Hopefully that will continue! I'd love to get involved in some giving back with her once she is old enough.

  2. Absolutely love this! Christmas is about WAY more than gifts, and kudos to you for instilling that early.


    1. I'm doing my best. It's still hard, I definitely wish I could buy her all kinds of things sometimes, but I know that it isn't a good idea, even if I could :)

  3. Totally agree! I had to reign myself in when I got excited about buying Elizabeth a doll house, a play kitchen, a slide, toys, a doll........ then realized that she didn't need it all this year. There are other Christmases, and there are always Grandmothers!

    Katie @ Cup of Tea

    1. Oh, I understand that completely! I want to get her SO MUCH, but I know it's not practical or necessary. It helps that we don't have a lot of room for extras. Luckily we had a den we weren't using to turn into her playroom, but it's tiny, so it also keeps me accountable.